Tuesday, November 16, 2021

Meatloaves and man parks: one’s an easy fix, the other I’m not so sure about

This past Saturday when I awoke and saw the gloomy weather outside, I thought it’d be a great day for a meatloaf.  As I was rummaging thru my “pots n’ pans” cupboard looking for my glass baking dish, I stumbled across an old bread loaf pan I used to bake meatloaf in, but haven’t used in years. 

I gave it a good scrubbing (I bet I haven’t used this loaf pan in 15 years) then pressed my meatloaf mix in, put it in the oven and this photo is what came out an hour later.  It looked and smelled terrific.

(If you’re curious, my regular meatloaf recipe is here.)

However, after cutting the first slice and taking a couple bites, I remembered why I stopped baking meatloaves in it.  1.25 lbs of 80% ground chuck contains a lot of fat and there’s no place for all that grease to go; a couple of greasy bites was too much for me.  I had a sudden flashback to Paula Deen laying white bread slices in the bottom of her own loaf pan before baking a meatloaf, tossing out the grease soaked slabs later.  Well, I didn’t have any bread slices anyway.

I sliced the rest up and stuck it in the fridge, figured I’d try to salvage it later in the week.  I then got dressed and walked up the street to the drugstore, to pick up a couple prescriptions.  When the pharmacist told me it’d be a half-hour, I said I’d be back.  I headed up the block to the hardware store to see what was going on, maybe get a Christmas wreath for my door if they had them in. 

As I approached the store, I couldn’t believe what I saw on display in their glass window.  An assortment of holiday gift ideas, and front & center was this 2-piece meatloaf pan.

(The top pan is perforated with a one inch reservoir below.)  I felt like Ralphie in that movie A Christmas Story, the first time he sees his Red Ryder BB gun in that department store window.  Where have you been all my life!  I went into Joe’s Hardware, asked where those 2 piece meatloaf pans were and the price ($10.99) and couldn’t believe my good fortune.  If only all problems were this fixable.

As fortunate as I am, having my health for the most part, a roof over my head and financial security, I’ve been feeling pretty down for awhile.  The simple truth is, I have nobody I’m close to.  It’s been that way for awhile, but I had an assortment of medical problems these last 5 years that kept me from dwelling too much on such things.

There are people I know online, a couple former coworkers and classmates, other bloggers like myself; but that’s pretty much it.  Since replacing my landline with a smartphone 5 months ago, I’ve spoken on it exactly 5 times—twice to my old friend & coworker Susie, twice to my doctor’s office, once to my friend Erin.  I just don’t have anybody to really talk to or hang out with, or do things with.  

I’m not sharing this looking for sympathy or advice, I’m usually okay with things the way they are.  Sometimes it just catches up with me.  On my way home from the drugstore, I passed the Greenstone Methodist Church with a sign outside offering Thanksgiving dinner “Free to the Public” on November 25.  All they ask is that you call by November 21 and make a reservation. 

It may be free, but I’d happily make a donation.  I think I’m going to call and ask.

Later Saturday night, I was watching Saturday Night Live on NBC and was surprised to see this skit below; a dog park for men, for women to take their lonely guys to.  It was too funny and I wish there was one of these nearby! 

 

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  1. Hi Doug, your meat loaf looks very good. Your new meat loaf pan looks like a wonderful invention.
    I am sorry you have been feeling down. I have a good friend (she lives an hour away) who is single and works from home now (the last year and a half) because of Covid. I know she has the same feelings as you. I think checking out the Thanksgiving dinner is a good idea.
    I couldn’t watch the video as “The uploader has not made this video available in your country”. Goodness, whenever I see that I wonder do they think we are on the moon or something?😆😆
    Take care Doug.❤️

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    1. Hi Robin, thanks for the nice comment. I'm sorry about your friend, I do think, on the whole, it gets easier with time. And darn it, why can't Canada see that video! I'm sorry about that, it was pretty clever. Like that new meatloaf pan. :^) Hope you & Chuck are well.

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  2. Like Cat Lover, my country was excluded viewing privileges. But I can just imagine SNL's man park skit. By the way, does your building allow pets? I can see you and perhaps a Jack Russell happily meeting and greeting other walkers in your local park. Anyway, glad you happened on your dream pans. (My crows would love that greasy meat loaf.) Sure missed my outrageous conversations with a friend who passed away a couple of years ago. Jan could get me laughing like no one else!

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    1. Florence I sure am sorry to read about your friend Jan, I could say the same thing about my mom--I really miss her sense of humor. I'm sorry about the video too darn it, I don't get that. As for pets, we're allowed cats but no dogs. I've thought about it a lot, I'd have to get rid of my leather chair and my rent would go up... it could happen. I'd feel better if I had a patio though.

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  3. Although I'm in a bit of a different position from you, I too have been feeling down and lonely. Perhaps it's partly the time of year and the weather? Living alone gives me a lot of time to think (too much?) and makes me realize my importance (or lack of?) to others. Friends that I thought were close have disappeared, John is very busy with his new "hobby" of estate sales, and my daughters have their own lives. Unless I decide to risk Thanksgiving with a bunch of unvaccinated people at my brother's, I'll be alone for Thanksgiving. By choice. I hope I can watch the video.

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    1. Margaret, I'm surprised to read this--I just assumed you had a lot of people in your daily life. But I appreciate you understanding, and also YOU were my inspiration for being more honest here. I almost wrote that too. Thanks for sharing, and I sure hope Thanksgiving works out for you.

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  4. It's why I play golf .. and used to play table tennis and hope to again when the community center reopens.

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    1. Thanks Tom. I read your recent blog this weekend, and thought "wow I don't know how to answer this". I hope I can eventually.

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  5. So glad your meatloaf woes were so easily fixed. The price was sure right. One Thanksgiving having lost not only my father but also some dear friends, I wasn't in the mood for family gathering. I didn't feel too thankful. I decided to try something different. A local church--that I didn't belong to--was offering a free Thanksgiving dinner for the homeless. I decided to offer my services with serving. I was surprised that they needed more help and hired me over the phone. I was amazed at the crowd but went right to work on handing out spoonfuls of beans. The lovely people I worked with and the grateful eaters really made my day. I soon understood how thankful I was with all I had.
    PS. Why don't you try to start your own man park? Could be fun.

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    1. Patti, I'm very sorry to read how you lost your dad & others over Thanksgiving... I can see how it could make the holidays a sorrowful reminder. On the other hand, I sure enjoyed reading how you volunteered your services, helping feed the homeless--that sounds like you, alright! In fact, volunteering for something sounds like a great idea. As for starting my own man park.. hahaha!

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  6. That 'man park' video was a neat idea... not sure it would work though. DH surely wouldn't go. He talks to one friend from work (and would meet him for lunch before the pandemic) and to his 3 brothers... but that's about it. I'm glad he has those outlets. Your meatloaf looks good and I'm sure you will like that new pan (synchronicity? - when something happens just as you need it) To be honest, I just pour the excess fat off before I cut it.
    As for Thanksgiving, I do think it's a good idea to go to that dinner and maybe even volunteer to help them prepare or serve. We aren't doing a big Thanksgiving this year. I'm simply not up for it and a little worried about Covid 'surging' during the upcoming holidays. We'll have turkey sandwiches, stuffing, and chips - a light Thanksgiving! (but still thankful)

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    1. Thanks Rian (I did try to pour the fat out before cutting it, but it was too packed and the meatloaf was saturated). But I can't wait to make another with the new pan. :^) I'm glad your DH has outlets, a few years ago I had some, I don't know what happened. Anyway, your light Thanksgiving sounds like a good idea. If I don't go out, I'll do the same.

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  7. I love your new meatloaf pan! I'm sure it will make a difference. I understand so well what you say about having no one that you are close to. Yes, I have my husband and grown kids but since I retired I really don't have any real friends. I was friends with the people I worked with but they all fall away when you retire. I have acquaintances that I run into sometimes but none that I'm close to. I have lots of blogging friends and that is what I love most about blogging. I think many people run into this problem when they retire. Of course, Covid has not helped since there are not as many different ways people can get together now. At any rate, I'm proud to call you my blogging friend Doug!

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    1. Bonnie, thanks so much for what you wrote (and shared) here. I'm very glad I've gotten to know you too, you're always so kind. And you're so right about friends (from work) dropping by the wayside when you retire--I'm just surprised it happens with ones you've known a couple decades or more. Still, you just reminded me that I'd still rather be retired than working! Thanks again B & I'm proud to call you my blogging friend too. :^)

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  8. Meatloaf is my favorite! My wife always me meatloaf for my birthday which was last week. I'll share her advice for meatloaf. Don't make it as a big loaf. Make about 5 small loaves (serving size really) on a sheet pan on a grill to elevate it off the sheet pan if possible. This solves two problems; faster baking and nowhere near as greasy. Mmmm meatloaf...I would make it myself but hers is so good...

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    1. Dave you're too funny, and a belated Happy Birthday! Glad to meet another meatloaf lover, man it's my favorite too. Okay I'm going to try your wife's idea of the mini loaves, when I do I'll be sure to blog it :^)

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    2. Not that you need my advice mini loaves, use oatmeal, tomato juice (about 10oz for two lbs of beef), and big chunky diced onions. I'm ketchup-holic and she has made me see that tomato juice works a bit better. Leftover loaves are perfect for meatloaf sandwiches the next day.

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  9. I have never cooked a meatloaf but have always enjoyed every one I've eaten. It hadn't occurred to me that cooking them in a pan with no place for the grease to go might be a problem.

    As for the other issue, I live in a house with four females. I ended up joining a fraternal club that meets once a month to get my man-fix. It works quite well and sometimes leads to other opportunities to get together plus has a benefit of raising money for charitable causes. Perhaps something you might want to consider.

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    1. Ed I can't express shock you've never cooked a meatloaf, as I've SEEN what you do with your hands--much bigger stuff! I had a chuckle reading how you get your man-fix, but it is something to give serious thought to. Thanks. :^)

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    2. I grew up in a family that weren't big meat eaters and occasionally went on vegetarian binges. We also raised hogs and chickens so most ate "the other white meats". Those combined means my mom never cooked meatloaf.

      One of our friends cooked me a meatloaf shortly after we moved into this house and it had a bit of spice to it so my wife and kids wouldn't eat it. I was in heaven for the week or so it took me to finish all the leftovers. Meatloaf is awesome, but just not something I've ever tried to cook.

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  10. Another one here who can’t see the video. I looked online but every site that had it also made it unavailable.
    I saw a fun sign in Singapore once - advertising a play centre for men - outside a bar 😊

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    1. Shoot Cathy, I'm sorry you can't see the video either--I don't get why they do that! Anyway, I wonder what a play centre for men is in Singapore? I can sure imagine! :^)

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  11. That two piece meatloaf pan sounds great! I usually buy lean mince for meatloaf, so it isn't as tasty because the flavour is in the fat, and I add things to it to make it tastier, like crushed garlic and stuffing mix, but I haven't made a meatloaf in years. I make the mix, but then shape it into burger patties instead.

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    1. River I add stuff to mine too (garlic, onions, green peppers, egg & breadcrumbs) and I'd prefer a lower fat content but my shop just didn't have that option. Patties sound like a good idea though. :^)

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  12. Australia can't see that video either.

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    1. Darn it, I'm sorry--I don't get why they do that.

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  13. I don't make meatloaf that way. But to each his own. As for a man park, I can see why it would be appealing to some people. David used to go to the gym and sit in the steam room and hot tub and he met all kinds of people there. As for me, I prefer to invite people over for lunch from time to time. People I know. Meeting strangers in a park or gym does not appeal to me.

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    1. Well, what counts here is you and David have each other, Gigi. 🙂

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    1. Sigh... Sorry to say Rajani Rehana is a spammer. I'm suddenly getting hit by them for some reason.

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    2. Kay you must be thinking of someone else--Rajani and I are in an online relationship, I'm sending her $1700 via Western Union to come to America!

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    3. 🤣😂🤣😆 You are so fast! Art and I are laughing out loud over here.

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    4. You are too funny, Doug. You had Art and me laughing out loud this morning when I saw your spammer comment. I’m looking forward to hearing how your Thanksgiving went.

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    5. Too funny, Doug! You had Art and me both laughing out loud with this comment.

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    6. You are too funny, Doug. Art and I were laughing out loud when I saw your comment.
      (Dog gone it! I wrote this reply to you from my iPad and my iPhone and both times the comment just disappeared. If it's not one thing it's another. Arrrghhh... And I tried doing it with both Chrome AND Safari. Sigh...

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    7. Kay, I am trying to be in a grouchy mood and you are cracking me up here!! You had ME laughing out loud with all your comment attempts (that all worked, haha!) I didn't really have a Thanksgiving but thank you for the cheer-up :^)

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    8. What? What? What? The comments went through? Daaaang! Sighhh... I'm too old for this.
      I would have LOVED to have you over for Thanksgiving dinner here, Doug but Art says we brined the turkey too long and it's salty. I followed the directions! Double dang! And he says that affected the stuffing too. Aggravation. However, since I can't taste much anymore, seemed fine to me. And mom's taste buds are also not great so she said it was good. This makes eating at our house a little worrisome for any visitors.

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    9. Thanks Kay, that was very sweet of you... I'm sorry Art thought the turkey was too salty, I'm sure it was delicious! 🙂💕

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  15. I don't think I've had meatloaf in fifty years. So it's obviously not a favorite. I have been a vegetarian for most of that time, but lately I've been eating quite a bit of chicken, since I've been dieting and needed added protein. But as for friendships, I find my blogging buddies add an incredible amount of enjoyment to my daily life. I look forward to your posts for that reason, too. I do hope you will enjoy your foray out at Thanksgiving, and hope that you post about it.

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    1. DJan, thank you for your nice words. I wasn't surprised to read you're not a meatloaf fan, I know you have a healthy diet -and- a healthy network of friends, both in real life and here in "Blogland". I'm glad we've gotten to know one another. :^)

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  16. I was going to say the same thing as someone else mentioned. When I start feeling lonely, the best thing I can do for myself is volunteer to do something. Start out slow though or the next thing you know, you'll be busier than a one-armed paper hanger. Word gets out when you're looking for something to do.

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    1. Thanks Debby, I know that's good advice--I've been thinking about a couple places around me, when I have more I'll post it. I hope you have a nice THanksgiving. :^)

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  17. I buy the 92% hamburger for meatloaf so there's not quite as much fat that comes through. I think. I like the idea of your going to the church Thanksgiving function. It would be fun to meet new people. Art does Meals on Wheels volunteering which he enjoys. Maybe that's something to look for? Some volunteering agency. I've heard so many organizations are looking for volunteers. I wish you were our neighbor because we would love to have hung out with you.

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  18. The Holidays can be a very lonesome time and I think going to the Church Thanksgiving would be a splendid idea. I too have felt lonely at times, Caregiving for years and Raising Grandchildren put me in that awkward space where peers were involved in things I could no longer be involved in and it isolated us quite a bit. I am close to Family but so many long time Friends either moved away or passed away so it's not so uncommon to find ourselves where you are my Friend. The Land of Blog has been that Community I could connect to when Socially there was much isolation and spending time Caring for immediate Family consumed me. Your Meatloaf looks tasty, Sharing a Meal is a great way to connect, even if you brought something you cooked over to Share and leave with a Neighbor who lives alone. Happy Thanksgiving, I hope your Spirits are uplifted by joining a group that will be dining together during the Holidays.

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  19. Try attending that church perhaps?! It's becoming a lost "art!" Kim in PA, north of you

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