Wednesday, December 10, 2014

Kiss today goodbye, and point me towards tomorrow… I did what I had to do

Man, I’ll just come right out and say it. I quit my job. As anyone who reads my blog knows, I’ve been dreaming/planning/plotting this move for a couple years now, so you’d think I’d be a happy Doug—in all honesty though, it was a year or two too soon for me. I just felt like I didn’t have a choice.

I don’t want to go into a lot of boring detail here (besides, my poor family & friends have already had to suffer through the story again and again). In a nutshell, awhile back I was told I’d be assuming new responsibilities in addition to my current workload. Okay, where was the support (or backup at least) I’d been requesting for years? It was never coming, and now this. It was just too much for my brain (and nerves) to handle.

So on Monday, November 17 I talked to my manager & informed him I’d been planning to leave in a year or so anyway—but if I had to take on this additional work, I’d probably exit sooner. At first he suggested if the new stuff was given to someone else, would I stay a year and properly train my replacement. It sounded like a win-win for both of us, but HIS boss was not okay with this plan. I handed in my resignation. End of story.

My good friend & coworker Danielle; that’s my buddy Steve in the background

The last couple weeks have been a surreal, bittersweet experience. My friend Steve (who sat right behind me) treated me to a pricey lunch at the Carlton ($60.00 for one meal!) and even promised another one there if I came back! (I would never hold him to that, but I love the guy.) A few days later my team took me to an upscale lunch at the Bigelow Grille, and presented me with a card and $300.00 in cash. I admit it, I’m a big drama boy & choked up when I read all the kind wishes in the card (above, click on it to see full-size). I sure am going to miss these guys.

My ornery friend Kathy who I hope I don’t lose touch with in the months ahead, her & Danielle (and several others) are good peeps

So… now what? I’m still a good year or so away from reaching my early retirement goal, and even THAT estimate was based on me living on a leaner budget. But truth be told, I’m just not up to looking for anything new right now.

I worked at UPMC 15 years—never had a week off—so for now I’m just going to enjoy this freedom for what it is.


  Well if I can get over missing everybody—take care, guys



  1. Hey Doug, I read this post earlier but then had to run errands which gave me a chance to collect my thoughts. As someone who's been hitting the pavement, so to speak, for a new job since February I want to wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do (look for a new job, taking up parasailing, write a novel, etc.) and just say that there have been many positive aspects that being unemployed has provided me. I've had more time to devote to my social media and marketing work for JB, more time to post to my own blog, more time to exercise, and I was able to do some soul searching to determine what I want and don't want in my next job. Really, the only downsides have been paying for my health insurance out of my pocket and being cooped up in the house for longer stretches than I want to. I wish you the best and look forward to reading this blog to find out what the coming year has in store for Apache Doug! And heck, there's nothing wrong with a well-deserved rest--maybe you should think about booking yourself on a trip to someplace warm during these upcoming cold months!

  2. Hi Pam, thanks so much for taking the time to share all this. Believe it or not, last week I was thinking a lot about you as I know you've been looking for new job opportunities & you’ve been refusing to settle for just anything. I’ve admired you for that.

    To be honest I felt a little guilty with my decision—I know there's a lot of people out there desperate for work, and here I am, walking away from a good-paying job. At the same time though, I’d been doing this type of work for a long time, and fought to keep my head above water as my own workload doubled—tripled—quadrupled in the last few years (as my company took on new lines of business)—so when I was told I’d be taking on even more, I knew I’d reached my limit. I’m disappointed that my bosses didn’t see this, but a manager in another department told me on my final day “your real worth here is only seen or felt after you’re gone”. I’d like to think that applies to me (in a good way)!

    Well Pam, I appreciate those suggestions of yours too—a year or so ago, a friend asked me if I’d made plans for AFTER retirement, I joked no & that was the last thing on my mind, but he made a good point. I sure don’t want to waste away on my couch in front of my tv—this week I’ve been in overdrive in fact, trying to keep busy with other things. (And no tv until 8pm, haha) But yes you’re right, I’d say a vacation is definitely in order... (though truth be told, it’s been nice just having the week off). I’ll be interested too to see what I wind up doing in the weeks ahead.

    Thanks again for your comments Pam, and I look forward to reading your own good news after you secure a new position! (And if I don’t talk to you soon, hope you have a Merry Christmas.) :)

  3. Thanks Doug, and you are correct--I've been picky this time in the rodeo! I'm going to be 43 next month and had decided I want to be doing something that I actually enjoy doing for a company that hopefully is making some kind of difference to people's lives; not just helping other businesses make more money they don't need. I also heard about this book the other day called...brace yourself..."F**k It." There are a few audio excerpts on YouTube from it. It's another law of attraction book but it's basically about how to let go of anything causing you worry or stress or that you can't control...when you say "f**k it" you stop making effort to try to obtain something, and you're letting the universe take care of it for you. Last night I downloaded an ebook from the f**k it site citing over 50 examples of people...several of whom quit their jobs because they just couldn't stand them any longer, and ended up doing things that made them happy and eventually making money from them. It's definitely my philosophy these days...and I used it recently to stop stressing over two jobs I recently applied to but never heard a word on...I guess it just means something closer to what I'd like is on the way. Well Doug, enjoy your free time and a Merry Christmas to you, too! :)

    1. Pam that book (and website) sounds interesting.. and right up my alley at the moment. I am going to check that out right now, thanks for sharing! :)

  4. Good for you, Doug.There's a bleedin' awful work culture in America, and your shitehawk former employers fit right in. You do right to give them the big E. I've quit two jobs in the same way as you, and only good things came of it
    All the best, my man!

    1. Hey Andrew! Thanks so much, man. Still not overjoyed at my move, but like you said here, just felt like enough was enough. I'm glad to know I'm not alone, and I sure hope you're right about better things to come. Thanks again :)

  5. Hi Doug, well a few days into retirement, are you going stir crazy yet? Hope things are going well. I am getting use to my new life! Just goes to show we are never too old! LOL Your 'old' friend, Diana.

    1. Hi Diana, good to hear from you--I was just thinking about you a week or so ago, as I was wondering how YOU were doing with your new married life & moving on from that library you loved so much, you sound great! :)

      Well, I've gotten used to living without the daily stress of my job quick enough--but it's just too soon (and about 85K short) of calling it retirement. I have to go with "voluntary unemployment" until I figure out some things. But thanks for checking in!

  6. Follow your heart this time, find a job you love. It will make all the difference in the world. I don't love my new job yet, but it is ok. So many changes in the last few months, for both of us, but change is good! Diana


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