Wednesday, April 26, 2023

I need to tread carefully, scary animals and tender hearts are afoot

You can’t tell by this grainy photo (taken thru my dining room window’s screen of the street below) but I just had an angry run-in with the young black man below.

He’s holding a leash, and on the other end of it is a brown & white Pit Bull, one of the largest I’ve ever seen.  His snout is level with the drawstring of my pants.

I know this firsthand, as a couple days ago I was waiting for the elevator to go downstairs, the doors opened and without thinking I got on—only to be greeted by this dog’s nose in my crotch.

A young, round black woman was holding his leash, and said “His name is Pilot, he needs to smell you when he meets you for the first time, sorry!” 

I just stood there, frozen—what is a Pit Bull doing on our elevator?  Dogs are not allowed—shortly after I moved in here in 2017, a young man with a mini-beagle was asking people to sign his petition allowing his dog to stay.  (I can still remember the dog’s name—Doyle.)  We all loved Doyle and his owner with a New England accent, but Steiner said nope and they moved out.  So what was this?

I said “Are you visiting someone here?”  She said “No, we just moved in a couple days ago.”  I said “With a Pit Bull?”  She said “He’s my emotional support animal.”  

BULLPOOP.

The next day, I’m in the lobby getting my mail and a couple other residents are down there, talking about the dog.  They asked me what I thought.  A young black man (the one in that photo above) entered and checked his mail.  I told Dave, Samantha and Mrs. Win I wouldn’t ride the elevator with that Pit Bull again.  They’re banned in many countries for a reason! 

The young man turned around and said “You people have a problem with a DOG?  That’s cold.”  I said “No, we have a problem with a PIT BULL.”  The man says “IT’S MINE.”  I said “Everyone here is afaid of it, I am too.” 

He just stood there and glared at me, then left the lobby.  Dave said “That didn’t end well…”   I guess not but I don’t care.  I want Pilot the Pit Bull gone.  

On the flip side, I’m at a bit of a loss on what to do with another neighbor, Lida. She’s in her upper forties, single and intellectually disabled.  (In the old days, we would say mentally retarded.)  But she’s sweet, funny and I think she likes me a little more than she knows what to do with.

The night before Easter, I heard a small shuffling sound outside my front door.  When I looked thru the peephole, I saw her pacing back & forth.  I waited another minute to see if she’d knock, looked thru the peephole again and she was gone.  When I opened my door, I was startled to find her on her hands & knees, trying to slide the card below under my door. 

Here’s the inside of the card, she’s quite the handwriter.

I showed it to my sister who said that maybe she’s just being friendly, but I worry it’s become more than that.  Lida lives in a 3rd floor studio apartment with a big window that faces the front of the building, so she can see who’s coming & going. 

It seems that more & more, everytime I come home, she likes to race down to the lobby to see if I wore a warm enough jacket, got healthy things to eat from the market, let me know if the mail has come yet, what the weather that night will be, and on occasion to ask if I like Sally (another ID woman who recently moved here) or if I’ve found a girlfriend yet.

When I tell her I haven’t been looking, she says “Good!  I won’t look for a boyfriend!”  

And lastly, on a tastier note do you know I’m almost 62 years old and have never, not a single time tried ‘Cup o’ Noodles”?  I’ve seen commercials for them all my life, but never considered myself a noodles person. 

Then the other day at the store, I saw this new Asian Style, Sweet Chili flavor and curiosity got the better of me and I picked up a couple.  Good Lord, this little styrofoam cup has 1100 grams of sodium—I shouldn’t be eating this!

But man oh man, it was only $1.38 and as tasty as it was filling.  I’m hooked.  Nerd smile

47 comments:

  1. I hope you can get rid of that dog. If they wouldn't let a cute little one stay, why in the world would they let a pit bull stay???

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    1. Thank you DJan, my feeling exactly. Emotional support dog my foot!

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  2. Hi Doug. You are a thoughtful, caring guy; no wonder Lida likes you! This might be a good case for a "white lie" to spare her feelings. Maybe find an opportunity to casually say something like you're a confirmed bachelor, but are glad to be living in a community with such nice neighbors. I'd definitely nip it in the bud, before she gets her heart broken.

    Regarding the Pit Bull. I'd be upset too. Maybe it's time for management to step in; although if they are claiming it is an "emotional support dog", it might be tricky. Do they have medical documentation to support this?

    Good luck with all of this!
    Carole

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    1. Thank you Carole, I've been racking my brain trying to come up with the right words for Lida. She is such a dear young woman, I can't bear the thought of hurting her. As for medical documentation, I don't want to be a troublemaker but thank you for the suggestion because I'm going to ask Steiner. This dog is simply too much.

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  3. We are landlords. I think all but one of our tenants have pets. We certainly are not anti-animal. But here's where your landlord needs to go with this: By law, the ESA is to be "Both service and emotional support animals must be under the control of their owner at all times, whether that be on a leash or tether, or by voice command." That is to say, it is the owner's responsibility to keep the dogs nose out of your crotch. If he cannot do that, his animal then begins to be a nuisance issue. That needs to be reported. It is not YOUR job to engage in this discussion with the young man. It is the building's responsibility.

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    1. Thanks Debby, I know you're a landlord and I appreciate your professional input! I think I'm going to show this to a couple of my neighbors! 👍

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  4. Oh, PS: those noodles? We take packets of ramen. I stirfry whatever meat I have, some vegetables, and add it to the cooked noodles (without the seasoning packet). That's much healthier.

    And your crush? Developmentally disabled adults are sad that way sometimes. We had an applicant for an apartment once. It was her first apartment, and she was awfully excited about it. We actually told her mother we didn't recommend it, because there were a couple young men in the apartment. I was afraid they'd take advantage. (Not physically...financially). I guess my take on it is to simply be kind, but with very clear boundaries. They are annoying sometimes, but they are lonely too.

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    1. Thanks for the additional feedback Debby, I've been wondering if I can add something to that Asian cup of noodles. As for Lida, she is remarkably self-sufficient and I admire her and genuinely like her. But yes there has to be some boundaries here..

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  5. They say things happen in threes! Well, you have now had three. I agree with Debby (above) and the landlord needs to take action regarding the dog. Lida seems to have a fascination with you and a gentle "I'm not interested" will be required. Hopefully, the odd smell entering your apartment is fully resolved. Unfortunately, the noodle cups are loaded with unhealthy salt. Consider buying rice noodles and prepare your own spiced noodle dish; you can add what you like.

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    1. Thanks very much Susan! FYI I am still dealing with that smell from my air ducts, it's just not as strong as it was March 18-30. I'm thinking about doing a blog on it, I just worry I'll bore people to death. And thank you for the rice noodle suggestion, that is an excellent idea. The sodium in these microwave cups is outrageous. 😦

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  6. I am terrified of large dogs, having been bitten by one (not a pit bull) when I was delivering papers with my daughter. I actually ended up with a serious infection as a result requiring antibiotics and repeated testing. It wasn't a fun time as I was in university at the time and writing exams. I probably would have had a near panic attack had I gotten on that elevator. It definitely should be something the landlord deals with.
    I agree with others, while it may be difficult, I think Lida needs to be told that while you appreciate her friendship, that is the extent of it.
    I've used ramen noodles in stir fry before but leave the seasoning packets, using other less sodium filled flavorings. (but I know they are tasty!)

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    1. Thanks for sharing Maebeme--well I'm very sorry you had to deal with getting bitten. I can just imagine how painful that was. But every so often I'll see a story on the news about a pit bull clamping his jaws down on someone's arm or leg (or another dog) and not letting go until he's shot. This building has kids in it, our landlord should know better.

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  7. The residents need to contact the property management about the dog. I also dislike and fear pit bulls although I generally like dogs, even big ones. That's sweet about Lida but I would find it annoying to have her latch on. I hope that doesn't sound mean. Soups, especially that noodle kind, are loaded with sodium indeed!

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    1. Margaret my friend, you never sound mean. Thank you for your input, and I agree about us contacting management about that dog. I like big dogs too, yesterday at the barbers, a couple dog walkers dropped in (they do daily). I've just heard too many horror stories about pit bulls. And yes, that cup o'noodles had 50% of your recommended daily sodium intake--in one little foam cup!

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  8. Dug, I think I tried Ramen noodles in college (as they were cheap) and if I remember correctly, they weren't bad at all. Haven't had them in years.
    As for the Pit Bull, I've worked with lots of dogs (large and small) and love them all, but I do have a certain hesitancy for Pit Bulls. They have a reputation for being unpredictable... and that's enough to keep me wary. And as much as I love dogs, I wouldn't want to have that worry to deal with on an every day basis.
    As for Lida, that's a delicate situation. I guess you just need to be up front and honest with her. Friend only... and with boundaries. And if she can't understand that... maybe invent a long distance girl friend (although that could get sticky if she talks about it to others). Good luck.

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    1. This was excellent advice, thank you Rian. I think unpredictable is the perfect term too, I've seen too many news stories of pitbulls suddenly attacking a neighbor they've known for years, etc. It just amazes me the landlord allowed this. As for Lida, I don't like the idea of having to tell her a fib but if she gets any closer I will have to. 😔

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  9. I see there has been a lot of advice left for you in the comments. Mine would be: tread softly with both situations. Stay very quiet as these both are very tenuous subjects that could have lots of recoil if you overstep.

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    1. Thank you dkzody, yes I've gotten lots of good advice and yours is appreciated as well. Believe it or not, I just want to keep a low profile. :^)

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  10. One of my daughters in-laws has a huge pit bull as an emotional support animal. He has had no training, but appears to be gentle. I am afraid of most dogs, so wouldn’t get on the elevator with it, just in case. I have heard that you can’t take emotional support animal’s on planes, they have to be service animals with training. I would look up your local laws on the subject. I also agree with the advice about Lida, stay friendly but set boundaries. You sure have a lot going on in your building, lol! I live in a subdivision and our current problem is people putting furniture out on the curb. One street has a recliner, couch and mattresses at various houses. Garbage does not pick it up without you calling and obviously they haven’t called as it’s been a couple of weeks. Joyce

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    1. Joyce, thanks so much for reading and sharing that info about your daughter-in-law. I don't know why, but that made me feel a lot better, maybe this new tenant below really WAS on the "up and up". I'm going to do more reading on this. And you're right, this IS a busy place with lots of soapy drama. My old apartment building only had 24 apts but was quiet as a church mouse. :^) Good luck with that furniture on the curb problem.

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  11. Oh Doug, how I love your neighor interaction reports!!! So agree with Debby that a dog allowed to poke a crotch is not under control and is a community nuisance. Sure hope your landlord pilots Pilot to hell out of your building! Aw, poor Lida. A sweet girl but should be given a gentle rebuff before he hearts gets too involved. Hopefully, she'll find someone that's a better match soon.

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    1. Hi Florence, I've been wondering how you were! Okay, good to know my concerns over that dog's nosy snoot were valid, and yes I hope more people speak up. I already submitted something this past Monday am. As for Lida, she certainly deserves a nice boyfriend... I'm guessing he'd have to be like her?

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  12. I bought a large box of 12 Cups of Noodles from Amazon and eat them when I am not feeling well. Good comfort food and so easy to make. I have high blood pressure, too, but meds have brought my sodium level below normal so my doc told me to eat potato chips. Your life is often troublesome, but I think it's better than living alone in the desert.

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    1. Thanks Gigi, and nice to meet another Cup o' Noodles fan (who's on BP meds like me). I have to tell you, you make me laugh even when you're not trying to. I agree, I'd rather live with the daytime soap at the Tiffany than alone in the desert! :^)

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  13. Uh, Duggie, no matter what you add to the noodles, the salt will still be there, right? The idea to make your own with some sweet chili sauce and low-salt soy sauce would be good, or at least less salt. My son is a veterinarian. Unfortunately, the pit bulls bred to fight are dangerous as rescue animals. The ones who are family pets since puppies seem to do better, but there's still some risk. Some of the other breeds are known by vets to also get mean or attack without provocation. Support animals that are verified are probably safe. Dogs naturally sniff butts to know where their new friend has been, what they ate, and what they smell like: instead of shaking hands. But a properly trained support animal will not do that. (My niece and great-niece are professional support animal trainers.) Check it out. Either wait for the next elevator, or get off if the "ill-trained" support animals get on the elevator. Good luck, Linda in Kansas

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    1. Thank you Linda, a very interesting read--I'm really beginning to doubt the pit-bull here is a 'certfied' emotional support animal! And yes, I've already been telling my neighbors it's not worth the risk, don't ride with that dog until we know MORE. (And I will try to make a homemade batch of those noodles!) :)

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    2. Service animals require certification and training. Emotional support animals don't. Any animal can be called an emotional support animal. You can print out your own document and fill it out, and voila, you've got an emotional support animal. Landlords are not permitted to ask the nature of the disability or about the training of an animal. IMO, you can tell if an animal is going to be a problem by studying him and how he interacts with a human. The thing that puzzles me is whether he stuck his nose in the crotch of the building manager when they met. If he did, that should have been a sign right there. This conversation should have been had before the person moved in. BTW, if the animal is destructive, or a nuisance, or the owner doesn't clean up after him, the landlord has every right to ask them to leave.

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    3. Thanks Debby, this is good to know. I'm going to share this with my neighbors and try to find out who in our building's management DID meet this dog.

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  14. Hi Doug, there is no advice I can add here as you have been given such great advice already. Many years ago as we were walking by a house a pit bull lunged at Chuck raking his thigh. Not sure whether it was his teeth or claws so we went to the hospital. There, we were told to report it to animal authorities which we did. Chuck was raised with German shepherds so is accustomed to dogs but is leery of big dogs now. I don’t think I have had Cup o noodles in 30 years. Very inexpensive meal, I think I would crack an egg into it while cooking it in a pot. Take care Doug.❤️

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    1. Hi Robin, thanks for commenting! I'm very sorry that happened to Chuck--see, another pit-bull horror story. I'm sorry but I've heard too many of these stories and don't trust these dogs. I think it's only a matter of time before something happens. On a tastier note--I love the idea of adding a raw egg before cooking, I am so doing that. :^)

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  15. I have really disliked this whole emotional support animal thing that has become so popular. I love animals but am extremely allergic to dogs, cats, horses, etc. So when people bring their ESA onto, say, airplanes, it may help their anxiety, but it throws my system into a tailspin, not great when I'm going on vacation. I hope they somehow begin to regulate it better than they do now. Good luck with the one in your building, and I agree that the management should deal with it, not you!
    Nina

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    1. Nina, thank you very much for your feedback here--I'm glad to hear the same concerns about this whole 'emotional support' animal thing. My first place in the city, I had a blind neighbor with a seeing eye dog, completely different story. I could never talk or even touch him, but he was well trained and served a real purpose. I don't get what this dog is doing at all.

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  16. Although I’ve never had a dog, or any pet, I can understand the attraction. However, I can’t for the life of me understand why anyone would want a pit bull. I could make a comment about their brains, but I won’t.

    Something else I’ve never had is Cup o’ Noodles. From what you say I’m not tempted to rush out and buy any.

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    1. Peter at the risk of sounding racist, pit bulls seem to be popular with blacks it seems, in America at least. I don't know why that is. As for that cup of noodles, the Asian edition with a sweet chili Thai flavor, I tried to convey it's delicious! I demand you go out and buy one for yourself. 😋

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  17. Wow, that's too much apartment house drama for me. Certainly hope Pilot takes flight soon! As for Lida, I'd say your best bet is to act indifferent to her, avoid her as much as possible and simply try to be less alluring! ;-)

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    1. Thanks Bobi, you just made me laugh out loud here! I will do my best to be less alluring! 😄😄😄

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  18. Okay Doug, I’m just going to say it. You’re too nice a guy to NOT say this; PLEASE do not eat those noodles! I just read the nutrition label on the package. The first 5 ingredients are (in order of most to least) white flour, oil (palm/canola/or sesame), tapioca starch, sugar, salt. Then there is a long list of chemical sounding ingredients all together representing 2% or less. There are too many other fresh and nutritious foods you could eat instead. I know you’ve had some health issues and have written about those struggles. This isn’t helping (I know you know that but sometimes we all slip and need to be reminded about what’s good for us). All of your reader friends want you to be healthy!

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    1. Haha, Don you're a good guy thank you--you're right, those noodles are bad news! But I had to see what I've been missing out on all these years. I might try to come up with a healthier version of them. :^)

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  19. No pit bulls. No ramen noodles. Pretend I'm your mother. I'll check back tomorrow.

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  20. If you're going to eat the Ramen noodles, my gosh at least eat them in the Styrofoam cup in the sad and depressing manner of which they are intended.

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    1. Well Shawn, I thought eating from the cup was for 18-24 year olds, I was trying to act my age & do the mature thing. :^)

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  21. Better not get too hooked, that much sodium is not good for you. I wonder about that pit bull, HE says it is his, but SHE says it is her emotional support animal, so who owns it? If both are lying then the dog is there under false pretences and they should be asked to move, since most of the other residents are afraid of the dog. I would be afraid too. I have no advice about Lida though apart from avoiding her as much as possible.

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    1. Thank you River--you're all too right about the sodium, I don't think those noodles mix too well with my BP medication! As for that pit-bull, I think you're right, they're not fooling anyone. I'm still waiting for the landlord to get back to me, I'll post an update once I get something.

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  22. Oh goodness! So much happening while I’ve been gone. I’m not a dog person and a pit bull would really scare me. I can see why it would make you nervous. How sad about Linda, but gosh…I hope you can let her down gently. And Cup Noodles, yes… my mom has a fondness for Cup Noodles. But yes, I guess the salt content is not good. I keep having to remind her NOT to drink the broth.

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    1. Thank you Anon, is this you Kay? It sounds like you! As for those noodles, the Asian ones I've been buying don't have any broth--maybe I'm not adding enough water. But they are way, WAY too salty!

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    2. Kay of Musings: Oh darn! Hey! You knew it was me! Wow! You must know my wavelength. I keep forgetting that when use my iPad, it makes me Anonymous. Doggone it! I don’t know how to fix it.

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