Monday, April 10, 2023

Like the quote says, when in doubt go to the library

A couple days after my last post (where I’d just returned from a week at my sisters, and lamented I needed to make some changes in my life) I decided to take Joyce & Kim’s advice (2 of the very kind people who commented on that post) and went to my local library and applied for a card—and here it is.

I wasn’t looking to do more reading, but after checking out Avalon Library’s Monthly Event calendar they post locally, noticed they have a few events I might be interested in: a history book club, a mystery book club, and ‘Arthouse Cinema’ matinees on Friday & Saturdays, twice a month. 

The library was only 2 1/2 blocks from my apartment, with a babbling brook and koi pond in front, and several bronze statues of kids at play.  I was greeted inside by 2 librarians, Sharon & Heather who couldn’t have been nicer.

I asked about applying for a library card and said I was retired, lived alone and was thinking about joining one of their clubs.  (I didn’t tell them I wrestle with some social anxiety disorder.  I mean, I can mingle if I have to, but I’m a lot more comfortable when I’m alone or with just one person.)

As Sharon was filling out my paperwork, she looked at me and said “You look very familiar… have we met before?”  I assured her it was our first time meeting, I’d never been here before.  She turned back to her computer monitor and said “I know I know you.”   I said “Well.. I was winner of the 1978 Literary Award.” 

Arrgh!  Why do I do this?

Now Heather (the library’s administrator) came around the desk.  She said “Do tell!”  I laughed and said it was nothing really, but asked if she’d ever heard of the Bowlby Library.  Heather said “Yes!  We’ve exchanged books with them—it’s in a little town south of us, Waynesburg Pa.”  

I said I was born & raised there, and probably spent half my childhood at that library.  When I was in the 11th grade, the library selected one student from the surrounding high schools and presented us with an award at a formal banquet.  A month later, I even got a letter of congratulations from my congressman.

Heather said “Well, we have a celebrity here!”  Sharon said “I hoped you saved that letter!”  I said “Well it’s ancient history but I was just looking at it last night.. um, I have it in my Google Photos if you want to take a look.”   I pulled out my phone and showed it to them. 

They were very kind and acted like this was a big deal.  (It really wasn’t, even when I got it 45 years ago.)  Sharon said “Doug, would you like to apply for an opening we have here?” I said “You mean like a volunteer?”  She said “No, we already have volunteers.  This is for a library clerk like myself, 25 hours a week, $9.00 an hour.”

I said thank you for the invite, but I was retired.  Sharon said “Well I’m retired too, but here I am!”

I know it sounds like a good idea and all, and my declining makes me sound lazy, but here’s the facts.  This wouldn’t be extra income for me.  At the start of the year, I tell Pennie—my state’s health insurance agency—what my income will be for the year, within $500 or so.  For 2023 my guesstimate was around $30,000.  Based on that, my monthly health insurance premium of $883.79 is reduced to $152.00.

(And yes, an insurance plan for a pre-Medicare sixtysomething male in my state is $885.00 a month, and that’s just for a silver level plan.)

Any money I earn over my reported estimate (which I’ve already withdrawn from my retirement fund in January, like I do every year) would just raise my monthly insurance premium.  So… I’ll pass.  Also, I AM lazy. But still, their offer made my day.

Now if I can just work up the nerve to check out one of those clubs… we’ll see.

           

39 comments:

  1. Joining one of the book clubs is a good start. The thing about social anxiety is that you don't over come it without stepping out of your comfort zone. Even if you simply sit and listen initially, it will be a step in the right direction.

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  2. Yay! I am so glad you went! I also have social anxiety and if it helps, know that you can leave any time you want. That’s what I tell myself, but never have. And I think you just found some new friends already! Also, AARP has a lot of remote group classes and has a movie night too, check it out. Joyce

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    1. Thank you Joyce, and thank you again for the advice last week. (What you said about getting out of your own comfort zone is what did it for me.) :^) Well, the card's a start!

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  3. Bravo, Douglas! First step: visited and got your card. Checked that box - and what a wonderful welcome you had and an intereting conversation started by you. Clearly, they connected with you and your genuine self as they were interested in hiring you. Now, I need to follow my own advice. I have a library card too but haven't followed up on any of the offerings. And I read so slowly I never make due dates. Next up, consider joining a club or watching a movie there and enjoy the 2-block walk. Best to you, Kim in PA

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    1. Thanks Kim, and thanks again for your advice last week--and fyi, I've become a slow reader too (since retiring). I figured one of those book clubs might force me to kick up my reading a notch as well. Now I just have to take the next step :)

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  4. Hi Doug. Long time reader. This is a great step! I'm a big library supporter and now serve on our Friends of the Library Board. Some people don't realize how public libraries have now become so much more than just books. They are more like community activity centers these days. You'll find great people there--staff and other patrons. I have another suggestion--and please hear me out. Explore your local Senior Center. I know, I know. Mention "senior center" and some people our age (60s) recoil and picture walkers and 85 year olds playing bingo. Not so, at least in most places. Like libraries, good Senior Centers have become activity centers for anyone over 55. Our Center has dozens of fun activities every week. I had no idea until my wife and I went to an open house last year. My wife immediately joined a choral group there and we both go to a weekly gardening group. There are trips (day trips and longer ones), fitness, cribbage, bridge, dancing, lectures, men's monthly breakfast and summer cook-out lunch,--the list is extensive. And lots of 60 somethings. At least check it out online and see what you find.

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    1. Thanks very much Don, this was a helpful read. And I appreciate what you wrote about local senior centers too, I am a bit curious the older I get. What you shared here regarding your wife & yourself sure sounds impressive. I think I'd be a little more inclined if I wasn't flying solo, but I guess everyone's gotta start somewhere.. thank you again. :^)

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    2. I totally understand, Doug. What I didn't say is that the majority of the people at the senior center activities are singles. Couples are in the minority--mostly "solo fliers". You would fit right in. The first step is the hardest.

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    3. Thank you Don, I appreciate you sharing that! It's encouraging to hear. šŸ™‚šŸ‘

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  5. That's such a beautiful koi pond. Those employees seem very pleasant. But, I myself would decline, because I am not a people person. The best years of my life have been as a retiree with only 1 person to live with. I don't like living with animals, either.

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    1. Gigi, I have to tell you I love your honesty! This really made me smile, thank you my friend :^)

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  6. Regular reader, had to comment! What a wonderful post to start my week! Libraries are the best and your library ranks right up there. You did the first step, maybe attend one of the meetings when you are up to it. There is no penalty or attendance requirement. You can just show up when comfortable to most clubs and programs. I wish you weren't prevented from taking the job. My neighbor is in the same situation with her income. She got a $30 a month increase in her pension last year and was within pennies of losing hundreds of dollars in health insurance premium help as well and her participation in a grant program which paid for repairs to her house.

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    1. Miss Merry, thank you for this kind comment and sharing what you did--I'm sorry for your neighbor, but yes what you just described is exactly right. I really don't mind being prevented from taking that job though, I know it would force me to get out there but I very much like not having to work anymore. :^) But thanks again, I appreciate what you said about "attendance requirements" and the like, I am clueless how those clubs even work. I will be doing it soon.

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  7. I totally understand your wish to not become an employee...there are too many obligations and responsibilities with that title. BUT, being a volunteer is fabulous. You have no "deliverables," and you get to meet delightful people, like those library ladies. I do storytelling 2x a week during the school year with first and second graders, maybe the library could use you to do something similar. Just hanging out in the library may give you ideas and opportunities.

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    1. Thanks dkzody, I'm actually more inclined to do something like that. I think I just need to visit there a couple more times, get more comfortable with getting out and just being there. I appreciate your comment! šŸ™‚

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  8. Kay of Musings: Oh yes! Absolutely go as a volunteer or join in on one of those groups. I know they would love you… like we do.

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    1. Thanks Kay, you're very kind! Hope all is good with you. šŸ™‚

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  9. I applaud the steps you're taking to get out and meet others. It always sounds easier on paper than when you have to face a room full of strangers. But you'll find your way into groups that you enjoy; if one club doesn't work out, something else will. I agree with Don that a Senior Center also offers many options. The key thing here is options! You can choose what you want/don't want to do and how frequently. That's the beauty of it!

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    1. Thanks Margaret! Well I feel a little guilty here as I haven't really done anything yet. But I definitely see something in my future. Hoping the library may be a start. šŸ™‚

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  10. Gosh Duggie, you covered a lot of history just to get a library card. I'm stunned she recognized you from your pic with your award. I'd be happy to go to the movie weekends with you! Lots of folks couldn't get together safely with covid so rampant. If your local community center is near, they have lots of events. Mine is 1 mile away and has a hot tub and indoor pool. K.C. used to have a small travel agency called Spunky Senior Tours, but covid slowed it down. They used to offer day trips or one-night trips to regional sites on their bus. Be sure and study Medicare and supplements before you get there! My area had a junior college which offered a generic class and I'm SO glad I went. I actually went 3 times just to absorb the options. (I think Advantage plans take advantage of people as they have payouts and fewer options.) I can blab forever about getting into Medicare. Much nicer than employee or Obamacare, but Obamacare was a good deal for me too. Remember to return your library books. Don't get a fine! Linda in Kansas

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    1. Thanks Linda, I always enjoy your comments! Listen, that librarian didn't recognize me from my old award photo--I just used her "I've seen you before" statement as a reason to show it off (as it was library related). As for local community centers, I don't think I have one--or a local senior center. I'll have to ask around I guess. As for Medicare, I'm ready but I've got 3 years before I'm eligible... so I'm grateful for my Obamacare until then. :^)

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  11. Hi Dug! Just back from a weekend in the Hill Country with our daughter and her family. I do a lot of reading, but as much as I love libraries, haven't been in one in years... (wonder if my library card is still good?) I did take a computer class at the library once. It was free and pretty good (think it might have been when we went from Vista to Windows 10). But the library clubs might be fun... I've never joined one, but have thought about a reading group, just not sure I want someone else deciding what I read. Still, I say 'go for it'... you won't know unless you try.

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    1. Thank you Rian! (Hmm... I'd like a class for Windows 10 too..) Anyway, I kinda feel the same way you do, not wanting someone to tell me what to read--but I also figured it would help get me out there since I don't have a DH (or DW) like yourself. But yes you're right--I won't know until I try. :^)

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  12. The first step out of your comfort zone is the hardest. I suspect, when you do attend one of those events you'll find that even sitting quietly and listening to the group will be good for your psyche. You'll already have something in common with these peope with your interests and that's a great starting point.

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    1. Thank you Maebeme, much appreciated. This really has been a help.

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  13. What a sweet memory you have of being a literary celebrity. And I can understand your reluctance to take on a job. I can't imagine it myself after so many years retired.

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    1. Thank you DJan, I never thought I'd be sharing that "literary memory" here but I guess if you blog long enough... :^) And thank you about the job feedback, I've been feeling guilty.

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  14. You have a literary award? I am impressed. I would love a job in a library, but here apparently you need qualifications for that. Paper proof that I know how to read perhaps? Anyway, these days I can't be bothered looking for any type of work.

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    1. Thanks River--and I thought the same as you, that you needed qualifications to work in a library. I'm like you, I can read & that's about it. :^)

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  15. Hi Doug, I love this post! Libraries have always been my comfort zone. Every place we have ever lived one of the first things I do is get a library card. Your library is incredible. That is wonderful they offered you a job. Too bad you are unable to accept it. As someone who isn’t comfortable around lots of people too I understand your hesitancy joining clubs. You will know when it is the right time.
    Have a good week.❤️❤️

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    1. Robin, you always say just the right thing... thanks very much my friend!

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  16. A belated congrats on your award. I couldn't help but notice the three watches lined up in a perfect row on the table ... I think there's a blog post right there!

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    1. Haha thank you Anon--and yes, I do like order whenever possible... :^)

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  17. Libraries are a hub of activity and having a card brings new possibilities. The book club option is worth a try. If you do not care for it, something else will be available. You enjoy writing and your blog and literary award confirm this...You might consider volunteering to write (on topics of your choice) for your local newspaper.

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    1. Thanks very much Susan, this certainly has given me some stuff to think about... :^)

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  18. I guess this is where we are a bit different. I’ve been a library member since I was a kid. At the moment I belong to three libraries, each of which has several branches. Thus I can (and do) visit eight or nine different branches. I like to vary them to get a different selection of books.

    Incidentally, the A.M. volunteers at a library – not one of mine, though.

    Did I miss something? Is the statue at the end significant?

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    1. Good for you Peter, that's a good bit of librarying! I'm not sure what happened, I just stopped going in my early twenties I suppose. I didn't mean to wait this long to come back. The picture at the bottom is the koi pond and bronze statue of little boy I mentioned earlier, directly in front of my local library. I just thought it was a nice photo. šŸ™‚

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    2. Ahhh, I should have read more carefully.

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