By Thursday I was showing some real whiskers
Last Sunday (June 7) I'd just finished washing up my dinner dishes, and was here in my living room on my laptop, putting the finishing touches on my next blog.
It wasn't anything too special--some family pics, some chili I'd made, and a radical idea my sister Shawn had passed along for treating my long covid. Maybe I'll go ahead and post it anyway.
Around 6:20pm, I noticed I was taking quicker breaths. I thought "Please God, don't let this be a gallstone." It's usually the first symptom. I've gotten them on occasion the last 4-5 years. The pain is off the charts, you pace back and forth and breath hard, but it's usually over in 90 minutes.
So the pain did set in, and I shut off my computer, filled up my hot water bottle (to hold against my stomach, it helps) and basically just stood there as the tsunami started. It gets so bad, you don't dare move a muscle. Anyway--90 minutes later it felt even worse. This had never happened before. I told myself I'd call for an ambulance if it didn't improve by 11pm.
I didn't make it to 11pm. By 9pm the pain was so horrendous, I could barely gasp my name and location to 911. They had a couple paramedics here in 5 minutes. Several of my neighbors watched them strap me down on a stretcher while I cried out like a maniac, a couple even followed me and the paramedics outside.
They couldn't have moved faster in the ER. Pumped me full of drugs and asked if I had a history of kidney or gallstones. Yes. I spent the next 6-7 hours getting chest x-rays, CT-scans again & again, an ultrasound and then an MRI.
The resident physician said "It's gallstones alright, but you have a ruptured gall bladder. You've got stones everywhere. We're concerned about your bile duct as well. You're looking at a couple surgeries here, and if we don't do them soon... those drugs in your system will only help so long."
They moved my bed to the Observation Deck, and Monday morning at 11am Dr. Singh introduced himself and told me he'd be cleaning out and repairing my bile duct. (He told me mine had several "scary large" ones.) I don't want to spend a lot of time on this one. When I came to, I was in my appointed hospital room, nauseated, dizzy and burning all over uncomfortable. I pulled back my covers, and was literally soaked from the stomach down in urine and feces. Boy did I cry out for a nurse, and a young man named Starling rushed in with a bucket of water and suds and assured me this happened all the time. I later learned the doctor may have poked my intestines which caused the avalanche.
Tuesday morning, I was weak as hell (but cleaned up at least) when I met with the surgical team who would be removing my gall bladder. They told me the procedure would be done laparoscopically. Several inch long incisions would be made across my torso and belly (4 in total) then using cameras they'd go in and tug that monster out.
What they DON'T tell you is that they pump a ton of carbon dioxide gas into your belly to "swell you up", to have better access to things. It is very painful and takes 2 months on average to return to normal.
My surgery was on Tuesday at 2pm. They said it went well but I woke up in such horrendous pain I regretted having it. They filled me up with IV bags of antibiotics and other solutions, I swallowed dozens of pills, but by Wednesday morning every inch of me hurt and I had a very high temperature, over 104F. I was informed an infection had set in.
By Wednesday night, I felt like I was drowning. I couldn't catch my breath. A pulmonologist was brought in, ordered another CT-scan and said "You have post-op pneumonia." She gave them new antibiotics to pump into me and said I'd have to sleep upright in a chair for awhile. Here it is, 4 days later and I still cannot lie down.
They wheeled in a special "hard seat" leather recliner, I sure could use one of those now.
Saturday afternoon, my surgeon came in my room and said "I know you're not in great shape and Pulmonology wants you to stay here awhile longer. But I think you can heal faster at home. We'll send you home with all the antibiotics and pain killers you need. Do you have an upright recliner similar to this one for sleeping?" I said I did not. He said "I'm sure you'll figure something out. "
Mercy arranged for a cab to pick me up, and when it arrived I was still so weak a couple of orderlies had to lift me from my wheelchair and place me inside. (That cab driver did not look happy.) When I got home, I apologized profusely for the delay and took 10 minutes crawling out of his vehicle. It took me nearly 20 minutes to get upstairs.
I shuffled into my apartment Saturday night, shocked how barren & plain everything looked. I have some healthy savings, this place needs fixing up. Anyway, I'd give anything in the world to lie down right now but when I do my chest gurgles and I can't breathe. I sure hope this clears up soon. I'm just glad I have plenty of groceries in the house (not that I have any appetite anyway).
They gave me a couple of breathing apparatus to exercise my lungs, and told me no baths and no lifting anything heavier than a gallon of milk for the next 2 months. They also gave me a bag of blood thinners, water pills, antibiotics, Oxycodone. I refuse to take any more of those opioids.
That's it for now. Thanks for letting me share my story with you. I am wiped out.



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Damn Doug for a younger fellow you sure have a run of bad luck healthwise.It seems like around 60 things start falling off folks. I have one friend recovering from prostrate surgery, another a couple of years post colon cancer, then there is the one that had a hernia repaired only to have a retina detach as he was driving along a month or so later.
ReplyDeleteI didn't realize until recently that you don't have to be doing anything strenuous to have your retina detach as 2 people I know have gone through it in the last couple of years. Just like cataracts if you live long enough it becomes more likely.
Ken this almost made me chuckle and I don't know why! But I'm always cheered up hearing from you. Thanks my friend. 😊
DeleteOmg Doug! That sounds so scary. I had extremely large gall stones but had my gallbladder removed before they caused any trouble. My mom died at 55 from a ruptured appendix and peritonitis, so these things are serious. I wish someone could come in and help you, check your insurance. Best wishes for a speedy recovery! Joyce
ReplyDeleteThank you very much Joyce, a sad scary read about your mom. I sure hope you are well!
DeleteDoug, I have been so worried about you! I wish I lived closer to help you.❤️❤️ Please be careful. Should you maybe hire an in home nurse to come in and help you?? Gosh Doug I sure don’t like the statement “You will figure something out!” You know we all love you and are very concerned about you.❤️❤️
ReplyDeleteRobin you are a dear friend, thank you! I wish you lived closer too! I really don't need a home nurse, but sure could use some help for groceries, laundry and taking down my garbage. But I think I'll be okay there if I can improve in a few days. I very much appreciate what you said here R. 🙂❤️
DeleteDoug, what an ordeal! I’m so sorry that you are having to go through this. If only it was 6 months later—you would be on Medicare and could go to a nice rehab place for 3 weeks with help for all of these recovery efforts. I know that recovering at home is sometimes good for the mind but the way you describe it makes me wonder why in the world they would discharge you without someone with you. That could have been downright dangerous. I’m hoping and praying that you can recover quickly and safely. But, you really need to figure out a way to get some help for a while.
ReplyDeleteOoops. It’s me, Don. Not “anonymous “ 😊
DeleteThank you Don, I thought these same things at the hospital. I'm thinking Pulmonology was right in wanting me to stay. I am glad I'm home now, I'm moving around a bit more here at least. And guess what was in my mail when I came home? My Medicare card.
DeleteYou've had one hellish kind week to be sure Dug! it's amazing and horrific how our bodies and various parts can quickly go from being kinda okish to medical crisis emergency mode. Glad you'll hopefully be on the mend soon We were all very worried at your absence. Do you have a local furniture store that can deliver and set you up with a reclining electric chair? Years ago and after returning home from extensive abdominal surgery, I had the same problem. Immediately ordered a nice leather reclining model and it arrived the next day. They set it up, plugged it in, took all the wrapping away and six years later it still looks and works great. Maybe give it some thought as it sure turned out worth the expense.
ReplyDeleteThank you Camille and nice reading about your chair. Maybe it's time I rethought my decorating strategy. Some more function right now would be nice.
DeleteOh my dear God, Doug!! 'You'll figure something out'? WTF ? You had to get from the cab to your UPSTAIRS apartment? By yourself?
ReplyDeleteThat is unconscionable! My heart breaks for you. Do you have a friend or relative to keep tabs on you? Help with the day-to-day stuff, food, hygiene, companionship? Call a medical equipment outfit to rent a recliner. Etc? So wish I lived nearer. Is there ANYthing we can do for you, even remotely. Do NOT hesitate to ask. Again, you are the most courageous person I know. Karma better step in soon. You are overdue for some serious beneficial payback! Kris in Ohio
Sent you an email.
DeleteThank you Kris, for this very caring comment and sweet email as well. I do have a sister that lives 60 miles south who's offered to drive up and get me groceries if needed. I may ask her soon but for now prefer taking care of myself. 🙂 I should be good in another week!
DeleteDOES ANYONE KNOW HOW TO SET UP A GOFUNDME ACCOUNT TO HELP DOUG OUT WITH MEDICAL BILLS SND HOME HEALTH CARE SUPPORT?
ReplyDeleteThank you Anon but I have good health insurance and I'll be on my feet again soon. No money needed! 🙂
DeleteHoly cow Doug!! I’m sorry to hear of your latest health struggles!!! I can’t believe what all you have endured! It sure doesn’t sound like you should have been released. You are a tough guy, and you will “figure it out“, because you have to, they gave you no choice. It’s reassuring to see you said you are glad to be home but I truly hope you will get some help!
ReplyDeleteTake care, be careful and rest comfortably the best you can.
Mike TX
Thank you Mike, I'm hoping things take a positive turn after this. Your words are appreciated, 🙂
DeleteYou have been through the wars...wish you could have home health care come in and check on you. Putting you in a taxi and sending you home seems cruel and unusual, but again I am assuming this was what you wanted. You do seem to do things your own way. Now, if you can just will yourself well...
ReplyDeleteThanks dkzody... well, they didn't give me much of an option on Saturday. I had nowhere else to go. But they have called a couple times since then, checking up on me.
DeleteThis comment from your doctor --"I know you're not in great shape and Pulmonology wants you to stay here awhile longer. But I think you can heal faster at home. We'll send you home with all the antibiotics and pain killers you need. Do you have an upright recliner similar to this one for sleeping?" I said I did not. He said "I'm sure you'll figure something out. "--should be brought to the attention of the medical board...pulmonology wanted you to remain, so you should have remained. Someone dropped the ball.
DeleteAlso, you really needed an advocate for you while there. I had a friend who coerced the doctor into sending her home but I stood my ground and said she could not go home as there was NO ONE there to care for her, just like your situation. She was sent to a long term care facility to recuperate. Did your doctor know you had NO ONE to take care of you? The hospital could be brought up on charges for this blatant disregard to your health.
wow, very interesting... thanks dkzody. Well, when i was trying to get dressed to go, a pulmonologist came to my room and said "If you want to stay, say the word" and I was very tempted to say "I'm not ready" but I was just anxious to be in my own surroundings again. And the hospital did call that night, and again this morning to go over everything, how I was doing, etc. I feel they've been fair to me.
DeleteOh, that sounds VERY WRONG that that doctor sent you home like that. No, no,no. They haven’t even sent a home health aide to assist you? Can you have groceries delivered? My goodness! Hope you can get comfortable. (Isn’t it funny seeing your personal space through refreshed eyes)! Best wishes, Olivia
ReplyDeleteThank you Olivia, well like I said in a recent comment they've called a couple times to check in on me and know I'm alone and kept asking for reassurances I was okay. I was honest and said I am really dragging so don't expect me to be all happy and stuff. And someone above (Kris from Ohio) reminded me Wal-Mart will deliver groceries if needed. I need to check that out. :^)
DeleteOMG, Doug, this is even worse than I imagined! I'm glad I didn't know this before or I would have been even more worried. I've never heard of a ruptured gall bladder but I hate the word "ruptured" in general. The lackadaisical attitude of the doctor about you managing makes me angry! Is there a way to do delivery of groceries? That way you don't have to carry anything although you do still need to unload the stuff. What a complicated situation! You know that I've been thinking about you and hoping for the best. Don't hesitate to reach out for help if/when you need it! Wish I could be there for you but I'm 2,542.2 miles away, according to Alexa. Take care and keep in touch when you can. We care about you!!
ReplyDeleteThanks so much Margaret (and for the chuckle--wow you are far away alright!) The doctor did seem a bit nonplussed about my barely being able to get up from my hospital recliner. I felt guilty for being there 7 days going on 8. But at the time, I was just so desperate to be home again. I hate hospitals. I appreciate all that you said here M, I'm very grateful for your friendship. ❤️❤️
DeleteJust when I thought things couldn't get any worse for you! You've had such a run of bad luck that your good luck streak should be starting soon! Fingers crossed! Hospitals should not be allowed to send people home when medical care is still warranted. It's shameful. Sending you truckloads of healing thoughts!🍀💕🌞
ReplyDeleteThank you Bobi, you're really sweet. And I'm sure people are tired of reading about my health woes as I am living with them. Time for a new chapter! I hope you're well! 🙂
DeleteThis makes very upsetting reading! I am amazed the hospital was willing to discharge you with no one at home to help, and without a visiting nurse arrangement, etc. I am sure you don't have the energy but I wonder if a call to your insurance company would help with that as well a visiting physical therapy to help with your breathing (appropriate after pneumonia) as with rental of a hospital bed and/or recliner, shower chair, etc. I know you are by nature very self sufficient but it sounds like you need help now to get back to self sufficiency later.
ReplyDeleteSorry to be such a nag. And thank you for updating us, there has been a lot of Doug related angst out here in cyber-space.
Ceci
Ceci thanks for the smile, you're very sweet. 🙂 As a matter of fact, they did offer to set me up with a physical therapist to use the breathing exercisers. I told them that I had worked with a PT at the hospital three days in a row I knew what I was doing in regards to using them. I guess the hospital chair would have been nice, it's very tough for me to get comfortable at the moment. But I'm just going to wing it until I'm past this. But good reminder on your part, I need to pick up those breathing things more often through the day!
DeleteOh my goodness what an ordeal - I hope the worst is behind you and recovery will be steady and ahead of schedule. I think it's always easier recovering at home than in a hospital - hope that will be the case with you.
ReplyDeleteThank you David, and agreed about recovering at home vs a hospital. I think I was going in the wrong direction in there.
DeleteGood to see you back, Doug,
ReplyDeleteLike all of the other followers of your blog I was worried when there were no new posts for a few days. I figured that it might've been LC. But boy, what a hellish week you'd gone through. It's a wonder that you're still able to do some blogging - you are one tough dude, my friend. Get well soon!
Steve from Toronto
Thank you Steve, it's good to hear from you my friend. Have to say though, I don't feel very tough right now. I can't get up the energy to trade my pajama bottoms for a pair of pants so I can get my mail and the mail came 7 hours ago! I appreciate your kindness. 🙂🤝
DeleteDoug, I've seen people SHOP in pajama pants. Sheesh. Don't think anyone would mind you picking up your mail in them in this situation. Maybe every other day. Don't need a lot of stairs right now I'm thinking. Hugs! Kris in Ohio
DeleteThanks Kris, I did go downstairs in them last night after all. It was more difficult than I thought it would be, so yes alternate days for now.
DeleteBless your heart!!! What a horrendous event to have to endure. It's so good to know you are on the mend (even if it doesn't feel so much like it yet) and that you are back at home. Sending wishes for a speedy recovery.
ReplyDeleteThis is just what I needed---thanks Angie!
DeleteOMG Doug - you have been through a huge trauma . I am so very very sorry - I wished I lived nearer as I would gladly help - it sounds to me as if you definitely need to buy yourself a recliner to help you have some comfort at home ( use your carefully managed savings for some comfort ) and maybe hire a nurse or home help ? It sounds as if your discharge was hurried and if you feel that you are worsening you need to get an ambulance again - I know that’s probably the last thing that you want to do . Being unwell and living alone is a particularly difficult situation- say the word and I will fly out to help
DeleteSiobhan
Thank you Siobhan that's pretty generous of you. I'm not ready to go back to the hospital just yet, but I admit I've given it some thought. I think I need Time right now more than anything, nurses included. 🙂
DeleteMy husband had the same thing happen except the doctors didn't know it until they got inside of him. I think it was over four hours. They had to try and get that mess out of his body. He was in hospital 8 days, and he came home with 2 tubes coming out of his body. He and I both thought he was going to die. He actually said he wished he could just die. So I know how bad that is for you. That was 13 years ago.
ReplyDeleteDonna it gave me chills reading this, but I can honestly relate to your husband's feelings. I hope he's doing well today, I am getting there. 👍
DeleteOnce he got over it, he was fine. He has lots of other old-man problems, but he is still ready to laugh most of the time. Has trouble breathing and walking and sleeps a lot, but he is 81 now. When he was working, he worked very hard.
DeleteI wondered if something was going on due to your absence here. Oh my gosh, never dreamed how much!! I too was shocked they sent you home alone with no support plan. Sometimes taking them up on home offers (e.g., breathing, OT, PT) is good even if you don't need help at the time - it puts someone else's eyes on you and gives you at least one support person in your circle. Can always change your mind after a few sessions and feeling more secure in healing. Prayers and good vibes headed your way. Kim in PA
ReplyDeleteThanks Kim, and I'm sure you're right. I just figured it ultimately comes down to me. Someone from the hospital called this morning and it was a real eye opener. I'm going to write a blog about it, I think.
DeletePlease do! Sounds like the story is still unfolding.
DeleteOh my, that sounds just awful.
ReplyDeleteThere’s little for me to say that doesn’t sound like a cliché.
We’re all thinking of you and hope that speeds up the healing process.
Thanks Peter, I hope your own self is well.
DeleteOh no. I was wondering how you were & wishing no news was good news. What a miserable week you have had. Sure hope that you are on the mend & you are healing and feeling more human again without all the pain. It’s difficult to take care of yourself when you are healing from major surgery.DL
DeleteThank you DL. Much appreciated.
DeleteOh my goodness, you have been through the wringer! Please don't hesitate to go back to the hospital if you aren't feeling better. Is there someone checking in on you regularly? I'm sorry, but it's worrisome for you to be on your own - it sounds to me that you weren't ready to go home especially living alone.
ReplyDeleteHopefully one of your neighbours, or a friend from the center can give you a hand with some of the chores.
Take care!
Thank you Maebeme. Well, I am fortunate to have a couple friends out to lean on for emotional support and my old co-worker Kim has agreed to go with me next week for my surgeon appt, but I'm pretty much on my own at this point. I'm hoping to have some groceries delivered tomorrow. But I am having a difficult time with the medical stuff, if it gets worse I have no problem going back,
DeleteDoug!!! Oh my gosh. I was afraid you were struggling with long covid. This is so much worse. I don't even know what to say.
ReplyDeleteThanks Debby, I am slowly but surely getting there :^)
DeleteDug, I can't believe you had to go through all that.... a ruptured gall bladder! (and post surgical pneumonia). That really sounds bad. I had my gall bladder removed robotically due to gall stones years ago, but didn't have any of those problems you've gone through. That all sounds so scary. What's the expression, "What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger?" (Ha! You ought to be very strong by now) But it also sounds like you were well taken care of in the hospital. As for letting you go home without anyone to help... I don't know about that. But you probably do need to get a reclining lounge chair as even if you don't absolutely need it now, you probably will later. I have many many friends and relatives that have to sleep in them these days. And do just order your groceries for now, it's an easy fix... we have drones delivering groceries all over the place here (from Walmart and Amazon). Take care, my friend... and I will keep you in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteThank you Rian... I'm glad yours turned out so well, I don't understand why mine had complications. Still unable to sleep lying down, everything still hurts a bit. No chair yet, but I did just submit my first online order for groceries.
DeleteHi Doug, I can't believe what a nightmare this has been for you. I'm so sorry you're suffering with surgery recovery and the complications that ensued from your stay. It makes me furious to think they rushed you out of the hospital, given your pain, weakness and the fact that you live alone. I've seen this before, and many times the rush to discharge backfires with the person being readmitted.
ReplyDeletePlease know that I, and all of your blog friends are rooting for you. Keep us posted if you can to let us know how you are doing. And do not hesitate to go back to the hospital is you are not improving, or if you sense that you are getting worse. Take care my friend.
Carole
Carole, this was very sweet... it's much appreciated. Thank you.
DeleteGigi Hawaii. Hi, Doug. What you went through was just horrible. I wish you well. I sleep in my recliner, because it's better for me. The bed is unused so no need to wash the sheets. I recommend a recliner. It's the best!
ReplyDeleteThank you Gigi, I remember you writing about your recliner before. It would be nice to have one this week for sure.
DeleteI have advocated for many friends who have been hospitalized...including myself. When they start pushing you to leave say NO, I am not able to care for myself I have no one to help me and will have to be readmitted if I do leave. I need a couple days more. Say it and stick to it.
DeleteIf you do go back in remind them they discharged you too soon.
Can you call any friend from the Senior Center? If you can DO IT!
What are friends for.
Jackie M
Thanks very much Jackie, in hindsight I probably should've stayed another day at least. I'm afraid I don't have anyone to call at the Senior Center for help, I did reach out to one but she said she couldn't help. I have a couple of older friends though if need be.
DeleteI've been looking for an update from you but didn't know enough about your regular posting habits to suspect anything was wrong (I often go a week or two between posts just because of being busy). Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry you've been through all this! I think the hospital and pulmonologist were beyond neglectful to send you home alone in the condition you were in. I would have a talk with a patient advocate. It sounds like you're going to be okay bit this could have had a very different outcome and it's honestly just UNACCEPTABLE. Even if you wanted to go home, they should have known better than putting you at such risk! And maybe speaking up about it could save the next person's life. I'm really angry on your behalf and any good medical professionals will be, too. Please don't let it slide.
ReplyDeleteNow, that out of the way...I'm sending you a hig and a wish for continued improvement and feeling better. Please take care of yourself.and don't hesitate to call for help if you need it.
Thanks very much Jennifer, you're very kind. To be honest, the more I look back on my "discharge day" the more I do see it was too soon. I was barely able to stand on my own two feet without assistance. I had no way of knowing how I'd even be sleeping. I will bring up some of these concerns at my next doctor appt, but he'll probably just tell me to "man up" or something. Anyway, thank you again.
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